Thursday, June 5, 2008

Kicked When I'm Down

I honestly woke up feeling okay this morning. The nasturtiums NSA planted in the window box smell good, I never even realized nasturtiums had a smell. I have a lot to do, but I'm getting through it, the sun is shining and I'm feeling capable. And then, a call. My father-in-law has prostate cancer. JESUS H. MOTHERFUCKING CHRIST!!
I'm floored. I just need a break, a little time when there's nothing going on, no one to worry about, no shit happening. I feel like I just barely get a grip on this slippery eel, and it twists it's way out of my grasp again. I'm left feeling desperate and inadequate, hopeless and frustrated, I just want to run away. And I'm pissed off, because nothing is ever simple or easy or clean. It's not just that my F-I-L has cancer, it's also that he's retired military and splits his salary with my M-I-L, so if he dies, there goes half her income, health care and shopping benefits. Which she uses to support her grandson directly and the rest of the family peripherally. F-I-L is the same kind of asshole as my mother, believing in the power of the mind to control all things, so we'll see what kind of treatment he opts for, if any.
And I'm befuddled and bereft, shaking my head and wondering, what the fuck am I supposed to do??

4 comments:

Lisa said...

That does suck. Sorry that things are not going smoothly for you.

Mama's Losin' It said...

God I hate cancer. Too many of my family and friends have been hit by it. Do you know what stage he is in? If they caught it early enough they might be able to treat it fairly painlessly. Just take it one day at a time. You guys will work something out if the worse case scenarios start becoming a reality. If you think of all that at once it's no doubt you will feel overwhelmed and panicked. I hope he'll be ok!!

Mama's Losin' It said...

ps I always wondered if people would piece together my url is my last name. What else could it be right?? I'm so paranoid about some psycho coming over here and taking off with my kids, I can't believe I left it that way for so long. I didn't realize how easy it was to change. I do feel a little better knowing the chances are minimal...but still.

Mama's Losin' It said...

ok my url is officially changed!!